I have been thinking about adult friendships lately. So I decided to challenge myself and you! How can you lay down your life for a friend? What are friendships? What is your responsibility? What do we except from friends? Are we really there in the times of need for our friends? So much love to give… Are actions happening to show/receive love? Are just a few questions to be answered.
Right now I’m going to focusing on Prudence in Friendships.
“ Greater love has no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” John 15:13
That seems a bit difficult to understand, particularly in our present time. With social media outlets like Facebook, Instagram, and Blogger, it’s easy to think of a friend as someone you hardly know, someone you never really talk with, someone we cyber stalk and nothing more. How can you lay down your life for a friend if you don’t even have a clear definition of what a friendship is anymore? In order to even contemplate the concept of friendship, we have to define what and who a friend is. This is a form of prudence…
Prudence is sound judgment; it is knowledge of the truth. It is the ability to know how best to act in any situation. It is not only the right application of wisdom but of all the virtues. Prudence allows us to see clearly what is creating a healthy connection to another person. It allows us to understand what true friendship is and what it is not. It enables us to give and to receive meaningful community into our lives.
Without prudence, we may miss a proper understanding of human friendship. The truth is that friendship is the building block of every relationship in our lives whether with a mother, father, sister, brother, leader co-worker, child, or spouse. To understand friendship is to understand the foundation of love.
Prudence can ground us in the truth of friendship and enable us to connect across generations, across family ties, and yes, even across social media in meaningful ways. Prudence is the everyday wisdom of how to respond to each other in love. It is the the practical knowledge of how to lay one’s life down for a friend.
“The eye is the lamp of the body. So, if your eye is sound, your whole body will be full of light; but if your eye is not sound, your whole body will be full of darkness. If then the light in you is darkness, how great is the darkness!” Matthew 6:22-23
Adult Friend Challenge – Prudence
When you disagree with a friend, spend some time thinking about and trying to understand their perspective. You don’t have to agree with them, but quiet circumspection may help you to relate.