Adult Friend Temperance
Day 12: Humility
Sometimes it is best to graciously accept a compliment from a friend, while other times it is beneficial to acknowledge God’s role in equipping you; practice doing both in appropriate settings.
Gratitude is the only acceptable way to acknowledge someone’s kind remarks. Sincere thankfulness won’t give off the appearance of pride or vanity. Instead, it shows you acknowledge a person’s recognition and appreciation.
Whenever you receive a compliment, but don’t know what to say, use these tips to accept compliments with grace.
Humbly say, “Thank you.” It is the simplest phrase you can say, but it sends a powerful message. When you receive a compliment, here a few examples to show your humbles and shows your gratitude:
- “Thank you, I appreciate your kind words.”
- “That’s kind, thank you.”
- “Thank you, John and I worked on it together. We’re so glad you enjoyed it.”
- “Thank you. I worked so hard and it’s nice to hear you enjoyed it.”
“Thank you.” Don’t overthink it or read into anyone’s comment. If someone pays you a compliment, the easiest response is just to say “thank you.”
- For example, if someone compliments your outfit (yet you think you look sloppy), simply say, “Thank you.”
Demonstrate appropriate nonverbal behavior. Show that you are receptive to the compliment through your body language. Maintain steady eye contact and indicate interest and engagement through your facial expression. Crossing your arms may indicate that you’re not receptive or that you’re skeptical. Lean slightly forward and smile when you receive someone’s praise. When taking a compliment, smiling says a lot without requiring you to say anything.
Don’t try to one-up a compliment. Avoid the temptation to “out-compliment” someone. You may feel inclined to say, “Thank you, but everyone knows your contributions were much more valuable than mine.” Simply embrace the moment and show your gratitude.
Own your greatness. If you shy away from compliments because you don’t want to appear conceited or full of yourself, recognize that you deserve recognition. It’s not conceited to accept a compliment graciously. If someone points out that you look nice or did a great job on a project, acknowledge that you put work into it and that they are recognizing you.
For example, if you put a lot of work into a presentation and someone says, “Great presentation!” acknowledge your hard work by saying, “Thanks! I worked hard on it.”